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Damon Mitchell's avatar

This phrase has been on my fingertips and lips often lately.

" I don’t owe anyone an explanation. For anything."

Usually, it's me telling someone else, "You don't ever have to explain yourself to me. I love you."

But I believe this is true whether or not someone loves us. We can certainly choose to explain ourselves, but that's our choice to own.

Despite knowing and preaching this, I still find it tough to stop speaking sometimes. I will swallow my words when I catch it, and I've gotten pretty good at not feeling the need to indulge the impulse, but it arises nonetheless.

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Ed's avatar

I feel this, Tom. As someone who is in the early stages of recovery, I am constantly questioning who should know that fact. Although I would love to be a completely open book, some people would choose to close it, and whilst I may not care for their opinions or sheer indifference, it’s worth asking whether they need to know.

Thank you for this!

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